. comments, I did my best to preserve individual cadence and voice, limiting myself to cor- Introduction xiv rections of spelling and grammar, typos, and tightening of passages for impact and considerations. out this response. Having just lost his wife of 43 years I expected a different response. Eileen Some families start out in denial . . . and remain that way I didn’t call my family until I returned. or “Lucy,” and so this form of identification is carried for-ward in this book. Significantly, I think this privacy permitted the women to reveal some of their deepest feelings (the warts-and-all...