…15 secrets yo u m u s t k n o w w h en yo u a r e a ro u n d w o m en … "Body Language" An estimated 67% to 93% of human communication (according to university researchers) is nonverbal, and your body language reveals your internal emotional state Whether someone's parents just died, or whether they just got promoted to CEO you can tell by observing their body language So, as a man who tries to pick up and seduce women, you should be mindful of what you're communicating non-verbally Body language consists of the following: - Your movements They should be nonchalant, as if you're so fabulously successful that there's rarely a reason for you to rush nor try to impress anybody Move through the world doing what you want and assuming that others will follow - The displacement of your body Your arms and legs should be spread out Don't be afraid to take up space - Your voice It should have a calm, soothing, and commanding effect Don't speak too fast or strain your voice - Your face Keep your facial muscles relaxed Never tense your jaw, and only rarely should you frown or wrinkle your brow - Your shoulders Keep them relaxed like they'd be if you just got a massage Don't raise them up like a nervous person I would even go as far as to say that you body language is more important than anything you say, because if your body language doesn't match what you say, then you won't succeed with women You see, if you tell a woman stories that convey your confidence, but at the same time you slump over and fold your arms, then you come across as fake I've picked up women before merely through the use of my body language For example, a couple months ago I was at a coffee shop that I frequent, lounging on the couch, arms spread out, with my feet up on the table The mindset I had was that I felt so comfortable that it was as if I were in my home lounging on my own couch It was as if I owned the coffee shop The net result was that a girl sitting near me put down her book and started engaging me in random small talk (Whenever an attractive girl you don't know starts a random conversation with you, you should ALWAYS assume that she's attracted to you This is because women generally won't risk the whole male-female dynamic, especially with a stranger, unless they feel attraction.) The conversation went on for awhile, I got her number, called her that night, and a few days later we met and after several hours went to her place, where I spent the night (We finally had sex in the morning.) The bottom line though is that she became initially attracted to me and approached me because of my body language Now, of course body language isn't enough You also must have an internal alpha male mindset that's consistent with your body language But make no mistake about it if your body language conveys confidence, then your mood will also shift to become more confident And have you ever noticed how when you walk with a spring in your step, you feel more upbeat? Conversely, when you cast your eyes down and drag your feet, you feel depressed So your mindset also follows the body language that you adopt So, in conclusion, be an alpha male with your mindset and your body language Be in a woman's personal space and be sexual and interested in her, but at the same time don't be needy or desperate for her attention Just be comfortable and enjoy yourself And when your body language conveys that, it means you'll later be comfortable and enjoying yourself with the woman "Boyfriending Technique" I'm going to reveal an important comfort-building technique I call "Boyfriending." In a nutshell, there's something you can that's usually done ONLY by a woman's boyfriend If you it too, it's a way of getting under a woman's radar and making her comfortable enough around you so that she'll be receptive to sex without making you wait You see, in order for a typical woman to have sex with a man, she must have feelings of comfort It is not enough for her to simply feel attraction for the guy Let's say you meet a girl at a PM happy hour The two of you hit it off, having a great conversation She's laughing She's interested You entrance her by telling her fascinating stories about your life The two of you have good rapport Around 7:30, you get hungry and invite her to get something to eat Dinner goes well too Then dinner ends Now what? Around this time, a lot of guys get confused about how to advance the interaction forward Clearly the goal is to get laid, but the roadmap is often muddled Usually the night ends with the woman saying something like, "I had great time meeting you Call me Bye!" Often, the need for comfort is why women like to make guys wait before sex (If the guy's lucky, it might be only three dates, but with a lot of women, the guy can be made to wait for months.) Fortunately, there's a way to shortcircuit that barrier I call it the "Boyfriending Technique." If you watch couples who are in close relationships, you'll notice an interesting phenomenon The man and woman are extremely comfortable touching each other, so much so that they'll even seemingly gross things like brush sleep ("eye boogers") out of each other's eyes It's a behavior that's only done by people who are completely comfortable around each other Certainly when you are in a relationship where you can brush sleep out of a woman's eye, you've long since passed the point where the two of you are comfortable having sex Catch my drift? You can use this as a psychological weapon to make the woman feel more comfortable around you In mid-conversation, tell her to hold still and close her eyes Pretend there's sleep in her eye, and make her believe that you just brushed it off Later, after the two of you finish eating and leave the restaurant, again tell her to hold still With your finger, brush off an imaginary piece of food from her lower lip The net result of the Boyfriending Technique is nuclear First, it sub-communicates that the two of you are very comfortable around each other Second, it involves you touching her face, bringing your heads closer together and progressing towards a make out session Third, in the case of you touching her lower lip, you're in fact touching an erogenous zone That's right a woman's lower lip has a high concentration of nerve endings Stimulating her lower lip makes her body release sex hormones Make the Boyfriending Technique a part of your dating arsenal, and you'll find more success than ever before You may just be having sex within several hours instead of having to wait several months "The Fated Encounter" Wouldn't it be nice if you could create feelings within a woman of a deep connection with you even if you two have known each other for only a few hours and without having to resort to complicated (and risky!) hypnosis tactics? Well, good news There is a very easy, no-risk way to this I call it the Fated Encounter Technique Here's why it works Every woman has a fantasy from the time she was a little girl, triggered by a constant diet of romance movies and novels, about fate bringing the man of her dreams to her In one typical scene the guy and the girl almost bump into each other on the sidewalk Instead, fate keeps them apart, and they go their separate ways Then, two years later, they live in the same apartment building Yet after several close calls, they still don't meet, again because of fate The two date other people, off and on, and yet are never happy Months go by The man and the woman each ponder what it will be like when they meet that special someone, someday And then near the end of the movie, fate finally brings them together And of course they hit it off right from the start Wouldn't it be nice if that could happen in real life, rather than having to wait through several dates before the woman finally feels comfortable enough with you to have sex? Well, it can You can speed the seduction process and have the woman feeling deeply connected with you by using my Fated Encounter Technique I'll explain how it works During the course of your conversation with the woman, you bring up places she has been to If you've been to those same places, you then talk about how amazing it is that the two of you could have been there at the same time and yet destiny kept you apart Let's say, to use a recent example I encountered, that she shops at the local Whole Foods grocery store You can then say, "That's awesome I shop there too Imagine, we've probably seen each other there all the time!" Another example would be that the two of you go to downtown LA all the time, and probably have walked past each other on many occasions And now, you can say, "Isn't it amazing how fate has finally brought us together?" As the conversation progresses, the two of you can talk about other coincidences, and the things the two of you might have done together if you'd only known each other With the seed planted, as the girl thinks about those coincidences, and how "fate" has now brought the two of you together, she will then start to feel as if she's known you, on a deeper psychic level, for a lot longer than just a few hours She concludes, you are the man she's been waiting for all her life "Have You Got a Girlfriend? Here's How Not to Screw It Up" Having a girlfriend can be a dangerous thing We become too dependent on our woman for our happiness, and then if we get dumped, we find that we've all of a sudden lost our confidence This results in being without sex for many months, until we finally get a girlfriend again, and the cycle repeats So to break this cycle, we need to REMAIN the attractive guy, the alpha male You see, relationships can make us guys too lazy (since the sex is so easy) and we lose that "high value" mindset It's crucial to keep that alpha male frame of mind that says, "I am like a Lamborghini." Do Lamborghini dealerships grovel to try to get people to like them? Of course not Instead they allow all the buyers to come to them Hell, Lamborghini doesn't even advertise As a man, you should have a similar confident mindset if you want to maximize the attraction your girlfriend feels for you So, how you keep that alpha mindset? First and foremost, avoid chasing your girlfriend like a puppy dog A basic concept which will prevent her from ever treating you badly is what I call Punishment and Reward If a woman engages in behavior which you disapprove of, punish her by withdrawing your time and focusing on something (or someone) else If she does something you like (such as having sex with you), reward her by giving her more of your time, talking about her feelings, etc So whenever you something nice for her, it because you're rewarding her And DO reward her good behavior, if you want more of it Like I said, Punishment and Reward Then there's the issue of being a challenge Women act sweet when you're a challenge to them They act bitchy when they take you for granted and no longer feel like they need put out effort to win your affections Often by around month in a relationship is when a woman really starts to take a guy for granted, so avoid that by remaining a challenge So the solution to remaining the attractive, alpha guy in your relationships is threefold: Always be willing to focus your time on things other than your girlfriend Don't reward her for acting bitchy by continuing to be around her when she does On the other hand, too, reward her for good behavior by giving her more of your time when she acts sweet Always have it in the back of your mind that you could end the relationship at any time Don't explicitly threaten her with that, but just make it a subtle implication That way she'll never become truly comfortable with the relationship and will keep working to win you Always allow her to think that's she's just a little bit more interested in you than you are in her Again, this can be very subtle, but if (for example) you're telling her 20 times a day that you love her, and she's only telling you that twice, then obviously the situation is badly out of whack "How to Attract Girls Even if You're Short" Let me mention a few names and you can tell me what they all have in common: - Al Pacino - Humphrey Bogart - Napoleon Okay, no surprise here they're all short guys But you know what? They were all awesome with the ladies (and not just because of their celebrity status they were all players before they became famous.) In fact, the reason they could attract girls was because of their strong inner attitude There are a couple things you can in the short term Wearing boots right now will subtly add or inches to your height Also, when you dress, wear vertical stripes and tight clothes That will make you look SLENDER, which will make you appear taller Long term, one way short guys can be more dominant physically is to work out In fact that really should be first and foremost If you've got muscles, it helps A LOT, not only with your physical appearance, but also with your confidence levels, strong inner attitude, and poise So get in the gym When you're muscular and you're a short guy, you become like a pit bull And by the way, I'd like you to experiment with that not always be the nice guy who's polite For the next few months, try to let your "inner badass" come out a bit when you're with girls Do the affirmation, "I'm becoming like the pitbull who can dominate the bigger dogs." Once you start feeling more and more confident in a few weeks, change your affirmation to, "I AM like the pitbull who can dominate bigger dogs." I've noticed that a lot of short guys develop a VERY strong presence by having cultivated that inner badass Now, I'm not saying you should become a jerk but just try to balance out that inner nice guy Next thing to long term is to GIVE UP any approval-seeking Who cares what women think of you? Go through life doing what you want and being who you are (That is so key by the way those guys I list above were players exactly because they went through life doing what they wanted and being true to who they were.) "How to Start a Conversation With a Woman" Last week I had the easiest pick up and lay in my life, and it all started with me walking by a random girl and saying (using a clear, resonating voice and disinterested, but relaxed and sexual body language), "Hey." She looked up, expecting me to say something interesting My follow-up was simply, "Do you know where the smoothie place is? I'm in the mood for a smoothie." After that, she kept the conversation going Simple, right? Here was the key: I always made sure that she was reacting to me more than I was reacting to her When I first started speaking to her, I frankly couldn't care less about what she thought of me My mindset was, "I'm just going through my day But hey, if some hot chick wants to earn my attention, that's cool If not, I'm going to enjoy my day just the same." I've coached a lot of guys, and the mistake I most often see a guy make when he opens a conversation with a girl is that he tries to get a response from her Maybe he tries too hard to make her laugh Or he starts asking her weird questions that he shouldn't be interested in when speaking to a total stranger (e.g., "What's you major?" or "How has your day been today?") This sets her up with a higher value than him You see, whenever you set a girl up with a higher value than you (like when you're trying to win her approval), this causes her to lose attraction for you In every conversation, there is always one person who is reacting more than the other The person who reacts less (i.e., is the more relaxed of the two) is the more dominant, or alpha, person The person trying to win the other's approval is the one who's more attracted So a girl will struggle to make small talk and keep the conversation going as long as your value is higher than hers Women are attracted to men who are a challenge for them If at some point it becomes clear that you're trying to win her approval, then there's no longer a challenge for her and she loses interest Keep the alpha status and stay in control of the situation right from the beginning Make sure to not ever react too much to what a girl says Always remain more relaxed than her So the answer to the best way to begin a conversation with a woman is this: Don't try Don't care what she thinks Just say whatever you want "How To Make A Woman Trust You Completely" I'm about to reveal a little-known secret of human persuasion that can induce the woman to feel complete trust for you, and have sex with you even if it's the very first date You see, for a woman to have sex with a guy, she must not only be attracted to him, but she must also trust him Look at it like this: Trust Without Attraction = "He's a great friend and I love him to death!" (Translation: "We'll NEVER have sex!") Attraction Without Trust = "I'm not a loose woman He'll have to wait before he gets any!" However, if the woman has both attraction AND trust for the guy, she'll be literally begging you to take her home with you that night Let's take a typical scenario Say it's coming up on 11 PM, and you've been with a woman since that afternoon As long as you've had good rapport with her and you've kept pushing the interaction forward, you can assume she's attracted to you And by the way, with a woman, you should always assume attraction until proven otherwise Because the bottom line is that as long as you've got good body language, you've got a lot going on in your life, and you're witty and interesting, she WILL be attracted to you Now you need to build trust By the time you finish this article, you'll know an easy, efficient way to that And by the way, this is a one of the best-kept secrets of human persuasion The most successful advertisers and salesmen to make billions use it, and now you'll be able to use it with women Have you ever noticed how ads will sometimes mention minor defects in the products? A famous example of this was the wildly success Volkswagen Beetle ads from 30 years ago that had the huge headline: "Lemon." The point of the ad was that not all of their cars were perfect VW took its quality inspections so seriously that it took note of even small weaknesses in the builds of its cars You see, if a person tells you something that's against his self-interest, you tend to trust him more We all It's a fundamental trait of human psychology So when it comes to women, you should point out your minor flaws Examples could be: - "I have an ugly mole on my neck Sometimes I feel self-conscious about it." - "I had to give a speech last week and felt so nervous!" - "I don't always floss my teeth even though I should." Even if they're fake flaws, it doesn't necessarily matter By pointing them out, you create a perception of honesty within the woman Because she believes the minor imperfections about you, she'll believe the MAJOR PERFECTIONS about you as well This means that, having both attraction for AND trust in you, later that night she could be breathlessly panting, "I've never done it with a guy this soon before!" "The Number One Secret Behind the Alpha Male's Body Language" Watch a man with high status Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or the CEO where you work and you'll notice that he moves differently than the rest of us He gives off vibes that he is hot stuff, and because of that, women get soaking wet over him You, too, can create that aura that makes you attractive to women Have you ever noticed the way your friends look when they're all nervous? They're looking down at the ground with their arms crossed, fidgeting, with their voices cracking and their eyes bugged out And when you give off that kind of body language yourself, women don't want to be around you Now, think about successful guys They've got girls all over them and some great body language going on So, what's the number one secret between those high status guys and the low status guys? You've probably guessed it the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social situations Make no mistake about it relaxation is the most important mental state for you to be in With that in mind, here are some pointers for you to develop the mindset and body language of an alpha male (and by the way, if you think they're easy, you're right you can make these changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention): Don't allow yourself to feel worried Just let your worries go, since you can't solve any problem by worrying So suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong Just live life Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old but relevant in this case-cliche) You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it, it's simply the fear of what might happen in the future Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened It makes no logical sense to worry! So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore Identify them for what they are toxic to your emotional state, and let them go Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries A second strategy to relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest When you breathe, imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation: - Raising your shoulders - Wrinkling your forehead - Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs - Tightening your facial muscles Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch Alpha males generally move unhurriedly, as if they are in control of time itself Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool, where your movements are slow and fluid Relax your eyes and eyelids Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous Their eyes dart all around Instead let your eyelids rest Look straight ahead Only give things your attention if they interest you While you're out and about, the affirmation to yourself, "I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control." If someone wants your attention, move your head slowly A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their name, you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast "Four Keys to Overcoming Your Nervousness Around Women" Standing at the magazine rack thumbing through Cosmo, she has the most gorgeous face you've ever seen Her hair is silky brown Her skin looks so radiant and so incredibly soft You would be on top of the world if you could pick her this girl up You feel the fear deep in your gut You know that even if you got your balls in gear and went for it, you wouldn't know what to say You feel so nervous and fumbly that you would reject yourself if you were her So you shy away from even approaching her in the first place Does this situation sound familiar? If so, keep reading The first thing for you to realize is that all guys get anxiety about approaching women I know I certainly But what separates you (and me) from the rest of the guys is What You Do About Your Fear Most guys let fear paralyze them not just about chicks, but about other things in their life like their career which is why, unfortunately, most guys will never find the success they want First, look at where your fear comes from The problem is inside of you It's not with the chicks If you're thinking about rejection, then that means you're making your approaches with a certain outcome in mind (I'm just guessing, but I think if you're like most guys, your goal is getting chicks attracted to you so that you can get laid.) Try this instead approach without having any expectations No goals Let me tell you about a problem I used to have I'm inclined to be an introvert, as I discuss in my book , [insert your affiliate link for "How to Become an Alpha Male"] So to overcome my shyness, I would force myself to chat up everybody, no matter who they were hot girls, ugly girls, fat girls, old people, men, people walking dogs, etc I would talk about neutral topics with them, nothing to with picking up chicks The net result from all of that was I became really good at approaching people After that, however, I made a mistake I said to myself, "Since I'm so good at approaching people and have become an outgoing person, why am I wasting time talking to anyone other than hot chicks?" So then I limited the people I talked to and my anxiety about talking to random women swept over me once again It was as if I'd never had all that practice chatting up strangers in the first place At that point I realized it was because I was outcome-dependent Because I had thoughts like "I'm going to try to lay this chick" in my mind before I'd even opened my mouth to say "hi" and so I would crash and burn It sucked Here's something I want you to try Whenever you go out, talk to three people, but it just for practice Don't it for real Because it's just for practice, don't limit yourself to just talking to hot women In general, I've found that elderly people (both males and females) and fat women are easy to talk to If it helps, set up a time limit for your practice interactions, like that you'll talk to the person for 30 seconds and then you'll get out of the conversation (Say something like, "Well, I'm on my way to meeting a friend Good chatting with you." And then walk away without making a big deal of it.) Once you've done your practices and feel warmed up, then you can chat up hot chicks Again though, it without having any sort of sex-related outcome in mind For example, if a chick passes by you in a hallway, just say, "Hey, I need a quick female opinion on something." (Then ask about something that you genuinely want a female opinion on.) Remember though: have no outcome in mind So it doesn't matter if the chick responds rudely In fact, when you reach a point that you've chatted up lots of women, you'll find that eventually rude responses on their part mean nothing You'll have an attitude of "ha, how original I've had tons of women give me that exact same 'clever' rude comment." I've been rejected hideously, time and time again One chick screamed "Go away!" at me before I could even get out my initial sentence Another time I thought it was amusing when I approached a group of two girls, just for practice, and right after I said "hey," they both turned their backs on me in unison, as if they were synchronized dancers! Now I just look back on all of that and laugh My point is that the more you approach, the more you'll reach a level where you notice that most people act in the same, predictable ways It'll bore you rather than cause you anxiety Think of it as trying to build a house You put down one brick at a time and cement it Brick, cement Brick, cement It'll take a long time, but eventually, the walls will be up (which means you've finished the toughest part of the job) To get a bit more psychological, there's really no such thing as "being nervous." You don't "get nervous," like it's some kind of flu virus that invades your body All feelings of nervousness come from within You have a certain series of thought processes that you go through before you become nervous You say things to yourself (When you think thoughts like, "I would reject myself," it sets you up for failure!) You picture the chicks rejecting you You feel tense in your body And so on So what you can to break this is to identify it for what it is Notice your negative thoughts and change them Instead of thinking, "Oh my God, this chick is going to act like a bitch to me because I fumble my words" think, "It's awesome that I'm making this approach, because if this chick rejects me, that means I've gotten her out of the way and I'm one step closer to finding my dream girl." Notice where you feel tense in your body, and then let your muscles relax in those areas For me, I feel tense in my jaw and face when I'm nervous So when I relax my jaw and facial muscles, it alleviates a lot of my tension I'll wrap it up for you by concluding with this advice: 1) Be social for the sake of being social Nothing else 2) Remember that the only way to get over your fear is by doing the thing you fear The more you it, the easier it gets, because your attitude about the experiences will become, "Been there, done that, it's no big deal." 3) Recognize your bad thoughts and force yourself to replace them with good ones 4) Ease the physical tension you have in your body when you feel nervous "Too Ugly? Too Short? Here's How To Turn Your Flaws Into Strengths" Are you a guy with a high-pitched voice? Of maybe you've got a face only a mother could love? Well, whatever it is, if you're worried and upset about your physical flaws, which prevent you from attracting women, then I've got some good news for you Not only can you eliminate those flaws, you can turn them into your advantage I'll explain how by bringing up an example of three guys who were very successful players in their day So here's a trivia question for you What Steve Tyler of Aerosmith, the late rapper Eazy-E, and Curly from the Three Stooges all have in common? The answer is they all had voices so high that if they had wanted to, they could have talked to someone on the phone and that person wouldn't have known they were speaking to a man It would have been simple for all three men to have their heads in shame and turn into beta males who never got laid and never even could get a girl to talk to them In fact, I've coached a lot of men who have limiting beliefs when it comes to things like their voice, their looks, their genetics, etc You name the trait, and there's always somebody who uses that trait as a negative belief, which sabotages their chances at success with women However, despite their high voices, Tyler, Eazy-E, and Curly were all masters of a simple technique that turned that big flaw into a big trademark that made them even more attractive to women It's a simple technique that I learned when I studied Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), and it will help you as tremendously as it did all three of those men In order to develop the confidence of my students, I have them learn and apply this concept The concept is called reframing Here's how reframing works Basically, you take every negative belief that you have and turn it into a positive, uplifting question Do it like this: "I feel bad about my voice" becomes "How can I use my unique voice as my own trademark that sets me apart from other guys?" (That's what Tyler, Eazy-E, and Curly all did.) "My face is pockmarked from acne" becomes "How is my face totally awesome? How can my lack of natural good looks actually help me with women?" "I'm too short" becomes "How can I height to my advantage?" As you ponder your new, reframed questions in your mind, your brain will come up with answers to them For example, you might find that it's to your advantage to not be a "pretty boy." Women expect good-looking guys to talk to them, so when you're displaying the confidence to talk with them, their guards will be down They won't expect you to try to pick them up That gives you a window of opportunity to display your confident, alpha male personality Being short can allow you to gain rapport much easier with girls than taller guys can Tall guys have a psychological communication barrier a lot of the time because they're literally speaking to a lot of girls (who tend on average to be shorter than guys) from a different level So remember, it's not your flaws that get in your way It's your limiting beliefs that Your ugly face doesn't get in your way of meeting women Instead it's your belief about your face, which interferes with your inner sense of confidence That lack of confidence is the thing that women pick up on For a woman to be attracted to a guy, the man's confidence level is one of the most important traits that he can have You can become comfortable with yourself by turning your flaws from weaknesses into traits that set you apart from the bland, ordinary guys So I want you to stop reading after this, get out a pen (or open a blank document in your word processor) and write out your negative beliefs Then write positive, uplifting questions about how to turn those flaws into good things When you become happy and comfortable with all your traits, through the technique of reframing, you'll become unstoppable with your self-confidence Gain that kind of confidence, and you'll magnetically attract girls to you "How to Get a Woman to Treat You the Way You Deserve" You know the scenario You start dating a woman After the first date, all you get is a peck on the cheek Second date, you get a mouth kiss Third date, you hold hands It's a very slow process You can't understand why it has to take so long to have sex with the woman After all, you're buying her meals You even splurged on some pretty flowers In short you're being incredibly nice to the woman So what's the problem? Why won't she have sex with you? It comes down to human motivation People behave in ways that cause them to get rewarded They avoid behaviors that cause them punishment So the reason why guys often have trouble getting laid is because they reward bad behavior A chick will lead them on and then make it clear there won't be sex that night, yet the guy rewards her by cuddling with her A better solution would be to punish the bad behavior by being a lot less interested in cuddling with her Never underestimate the power of getting up from the couch and walking out the door Remember, to harvest the full enjoyment out of life and to have women be attracted to you, you need to be an alpha male That means being powerful So make sure you get treated the way you deserve to be Did a chick something (like have sex with you) that deserves rewarding? Then go ahead and something nice for her Take her on a date to a fancy restaurant Buy her filet mignon and Don Perignon (if you've got the money) Does a chick just string you along, telling you nice things that she would for you if only she didn't have a boyfriend? Then withdraw your attention, and go talk to other girls instead of her Frame all of your behavior towards women in terms of punishment and reward, and you'll be treated the way you deserve (or else you'll move onto another woman who WILL treat you right) "How To Have Sex On The First Date" Having gone out with with literally thousands of women and gone to bed with hundreds over the past two and a half decades, I've learned that there's nothing you can to GUARANTEE having sex with any particular woman However, by doing a few simple things, you can dramatically INCREASE THE ODDS of going all the way on the very first night of your relationship Meet her in a non-traditional venue By that I mean, don't take her to a fancy dinner or anything else that she associates with a "date." If you do, that puts her into the same "make him wait" mindset that she adopted with the last 100 guys who bought her a nice dinner Instead meet her somewhere informal, like a coffee shop or some cheap diner for lunch Don't make a big deal out of who pays for what, because again, the last 100 guys she dated paid for her meal because, as was blatantly obvious to her, they were hoping to get laid As an alpha male, you shouldn't anything because you're "hoping to get laid." That reeks of desperation and kills attraction that a woman feels A more attractive guy is one who gets laid all the time, so sex is no big deal to him If a woman wants his attention, she has to earn it In other words, he is a challenge for her, not a sure thing Have the proper mindset throughout the date You want to be relaxed and feeling sexual (To get yourself into a sexual state, try watching porn just before the date, but don't masturbate.) And it's important to feel relaxed No nervousness For a woman to become sexual, she needs to feel relaxed and horny It is important that you feel that exact way yourself, because studies have shown that when two people are in rapport, they eventually match emotional states with each other So when you're chilling with the girl, you should feel deeply relaxed and horny, and then engage her in conversation about neutral subjects until you see signs that she too is getting relaxed and horny Get her alone with you Let's say you and the girl hit it off fantastically in the coffee shop, so you then take her to a bar to get a quick drink Things are really going well there The conversational vibe is excellent You see signs of her increasing sexual arousal and openness to intimacy Some signs of a woman's deepening sexual attraction to you include: - Sitting with her inner thigh exposed - Fidgeting with her clothes She might even unfasten a button or two of her blouse - She engages in "triangle gazing." She'll look at one of your eyes, then another, and then at your mouth - You notice her stealing glimpses at your chest and even your crotch The problem is you can't just say, "Let's go to my place and have sex." With women you're on a first date with, whenever you verbalize anything sexual, it kills the mood for her and results in you sleeping alone that night Instead, mention an innocent excuse for the two of you to go to your place (Examples could be, "You should come hear my 'Best of the 80s' CD" or "That's awesome that you're so good with art I have a painting in my living room that I'd love to get your opinion on") Since the two of you have an "innocent" reason to be alone together, it avoids triggering the alarm bells in her mind that scream, "Uh oh! I don't want to be a slut!" Once the two of you are then alone, isolated at your place, you can set the scene for the seduction It can take several hours for the woman to feel comfortable enough with you at your house, so you need to be patient Sit on your couch and watch a movie Slowly escalate Hold hands, stroke her hair, and so on from there Sexually, women are like irons They heat up slowly Keep that in mind and don't rush things, and you'll have your maximum shot at having sex on a first date BY John Alexander (http://alphamale.has.it) 3578 Hartsel Drive Suite E374 Colorado Springs, CO 80920 1-719-357-5694 Short Bio: John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male" He has discovered the Step Seduction System He guides anyone from saying "hello" to a new woman to sharing orgasms in bed with her even in just one evening! To know more about his program in English visit: http://alphamale.has.it Other languages: [Espaủol] [Franỗais] [Deutsch] [Nederlandse] [Italiano] [Português] John has also written more books: How to Be Her Best Lover Ever http://bestlover.does.it How to Get a Girl Back in 30 Days or Less http://getgirlback.needz.it Other languages: [Espaủol] [Franỗais] [Deutsch] [Nederlandse] [Italiano] [Portuguờs] More information can be found at http://alphamale.has.it ... confident And have you ever noticed how when you walk with a spring in your step, you feel more upbeat? Conversely, when you cast your eyes down and drag your feet, you feel depressed So your mindset... soft You would be on top of the world if you could pick her this girl up You feel the fear deep in your gut You know that even if you got your balls in gear and went for it, you wouldn''t know. .. before you become nervous You say things to yourself (When you think thoughts like, "I would reject myself," it sets you up for failure!) You picture the chicks rejecting you You feel tense in your