1 Daytime Pick-Up Revealed The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun! 2006 All Rights Reserved 2 3 Table of ConTenTs IntroductIon 4 A Word on consIstency 5 GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl 6 WArnInG! 7 Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS 17 FActor 1: Inner strenGth 17 FActor 2: IdentIty 24 FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue 28 FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon 34 FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon 41 FActor 6: coMFort & trust 47 FActor 7: loGIstIcs 51 FActor 8: InvestMent 53 Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl 54 KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen 54 Where to Meet WoMen 55 Be In tune WIth the enerGy level 56 crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen 57 BreAKInG doWn the opener 58 deAlInG WIth contInGencIes 60 GIFt shIFt theory 61 the pInG ponG MetAphor 63 2 3 Go FIrst prIncIple 64 poWer tAlK 65 WhAt to do AFter InItIAtInG the conversAtIon 66 you Must creAte A connectIon 66 hoW to AnsWer lIGht rApport QuestIons 67 BuIldInG suBstAnce: ActIve lIstenInG, FIndInG her core vAlue, And leAdInG WIth your pAssIons 71 leAdInG WIth your pAssIons 74 A couple oF eFFectIve conversAtIonAl tools 75 here’s A conversAtIon I hAd In the pAst 78 BuIldInG FAMIlIArIty & suBstAnce 80 the Art oF GettInG phone nuMBers & settInG up dAtes 82 8 tIps For An unForGettABle FIrst dAte 86 on creAtInG A sexuAl vIBe 87 When & hoW to KIss her 89 FroM coFFee shop, MAll, superMArKet to the BedrooM: the nAturAl proGressIon 89 Words oF WIsdoM 92 WrAppInG It All up 94 4 5 First of all, I want to congratulate you. You’ve taken the rst step toward improving yourself. I know there’s a lot of information out there and, quite frankly, it can be overwhelming. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book. What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. Anyone, regardless of age and experience, can benet from this manual. Over the years, I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. In the process, I came up with over 2,000 pages lled with discoveries, theories, and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. 2,000 pages? Yes. I’ve compressed it all into this book. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. I want you to succeed now. So I came up with a manual that anyone, even my 8-year-old cousin, would understand. I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. I learned from my past failures, hanging out with guys that were good with women, and trial and error. It was a long and painful process but, at that time, I really had no other option. Worst of all, I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. Back then, there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. There were no gurus, books, videos, or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up. It didn’t stop me though. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. I just needed to know how to operate in the eld. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls, streets, beaches, coffee shops, and college campuses, I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone, with the right combination of passion, dedication, and perseverance to become successful with women, by choice. InTroduCTIon 4 5 There’s a catch though… You have to want it. You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. So now, I want you to sit back, relax, and keep an open mind. You’re about to begin your journey. I promise you won’t regret it. Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency. You can have the best techniques, the best system, and the best coach out there, but without consistency, it’s all worthless. Over the past three years, I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently, there was always one common denominator. Day in day out, they each followed their pre-determined plan, consistently, without fail, and without excuses. There are many ways to achieve your goal, but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other. You must nd the determination, passion, and drive within yourself to see this through. If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now, then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree. You won’t be in college forever, and you will not be guring out this part of your life forever - only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself, would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams - or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It’s time to make a decision. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day. Now, make a stand, and choose wisely. First of all, this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight. It doesn’t work that way. You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn. a Word on ConsIsTenCy 6 7 I want you to approach this as you, would when you’re trying to develop a skill. The more you practice, the better you become. It’s similar to learning a sport. You need to practice several times a week, if you want to become competent. There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn. It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you, so be prepared. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. Most of them, you will need in the future. Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. Come back and read the individual section from time to time. Read, absorb, and integrate the information you learn. Don’t ever, ever be satised with just learning this stuff, practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here. Keep practicing, reading, and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas, comments, complaints, or just a simple “Hi” note if you will. I want to know what you think. You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect.com Let’s Rock n Roll! GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual 6 7 This book is copyright 2007, with all rights reserved. It is illegal to copy, distribute, or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part, or to contribute to the copying, distribution, or creating of derivative works of this book. 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Now that we’re nished with the warning, let’s learn how to be successful with women during the daytime WarnInG! 8 9 Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section, I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach, and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women. Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. The question is, ”What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn’t do anything, then that’s normal. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off, and believe me, they are rare. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me, I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those, then day game just might be the answer. Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman, outside of bars and clubs, build an emotional connection, get them on dates, and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. It’s not luck, as most may think, it’s a skill set. Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to nd, they roam around malls, beaches, supermarkets, and coffee shops every single day. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands, shop, relax, have fun and a whole list of other reasons. The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. WhaT Is day GaMe? 8 9 What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I’m nuts? Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. I should know. I’ve had a history of being a salesman. Several years ago, I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall, trying to get people to buy our products. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir, do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada. It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer. Heck, I didn’t even know their name. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must, and it did make sense. If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer, then there would be no need for salespeople. Occasionally, people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say. But, more often than not, they’d just continue walking. What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. If you think about it, the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women, is their ability to communicate with people. Communication is key in everything that we do. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. Now, let’s get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job, I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques, and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique, then people usually gave me a bit of their time. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG 10 11 You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?” “Nice weather…” “It’s a pretty long line, isn’t it” Chances are you reply with some sort of answer, depending on your mood. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business. Looking back, why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question. If you can relate to this scenario then Women get approached or hit on all the time. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction. It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes. There are a lot of whackos out there. The rst thing you need to do is nd a way to bypass her social lters. What does that mean? You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led. Make or Break Moment The rst couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation. WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy [...]... up, starting from your core, then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up In order to efficiently improve your skills, I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up 14 FACTOR 1: INNER STRENGTH We’ll... weeks If you run out of things to do, try something new 27 Factor 3: Long Term and Short Term Value So, I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime In order to learn how to communicate with women, you must first understand them Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman It’s no secret that women get . 1 Daytime Pick-Up Revealed The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College. pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. In the process, I came up with over 2,000 pages lled with discoveries, theories, and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. 2,000 pages?. “bars and clubs” context. There were no gurus, books, videos, or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up. It didn’t stop me though. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part