1001 ways to be OMANTIC R The #1 National Bestseller Gregory J.P. Godek “ W o r t h M e m o r i z i n g ” — B o s t o n H e r a l d UPC EAN 7 6078921688 6 210044781402 9 51695 ISBN13: 9781402210044 ISBN10: 1402210043 “Greg Godek explains how to get the Woo in wooing.” —COSMOPOLITAN Are you getting enough love, passion, fun and romance? Here are hundreds and hundreds of ideas and resources for transforming your relationship into a vibrant, exciting love affair, including gifts and gestures, setting the atmosphere, surprising your partner and the author’s personal notes on the best of the best when it comes to romance. “This book is different. It is practical. Pick it up. Pick a number between 1 and 1001. Do it…it will change your life!” —WESLEY G., NEW YORK 1001 ways to be OMANTIC R Gregory J.P. Godek MORE THAN 1.6 MILLION COPIES SOLD! Now Completely Revised and More Romantic Than Ever       “        ”      ,                       ( )        “  ”       ’                 NATIONAL BESTSELLER Gregory J.P. Godek, known worldwide as “America’s Romance Authority,” is a best-selling author and popular speaker. He has appeared on Oprah and Donahue, and has taught his acclaimed Romance Class to groups as diverse as the U.S. Army, women’s groups and business organizations. www.sourcebooks.com Relationships $16.95 U.S. / $21.95 CAN / £9.99 UK ISBN-13: 978-1-4022-1004-4 ISBN-10: 1-4022-1004-3 Gregory J.P. Godek Title Page Theme Song: “In the Name of Love,” U2 Life is simply too short not to be romantic. 1001Ways.int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page i Copyright © 1999, 2008 by Gregory J.P. Godek Cover and internal design © 2008 by Sourcebooks, Inc. Cover photo © Corbis Sourcebooks and the colophon are registered trademarks of Sourcebooks, Inc. 1001 Ways to be Romantic® is a federally registered trademark of Gregory J.P. Godek. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means including information storage and retrieval systems—except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews—without permission in writing from its publisher, Sourcebooks, Inc. All brand names and product names used in this book are trademarks, registered trademarks, or trade names of their respective holders. Sourcebooks, Inc., is not associated with any product or ven- dor in this book. Care has been taken to ensure the information in this book was accurate at the time of publication. Be advised that addresses, phone numbers, and web addresses may change and that companies may go out of business or change products or services. Originally published in 1999 as 1001 Ways to be Romantic—Author’s Annotated Edition . This is a revised edition. Published by Sourcebooks Casablanca, an imprint of Sourcebooks, Inc. P.O. Box 4410, Naperville, Illinois 60567–4410 (630) 961–3900 Fax: (630) 961–2168 www.sourcebooks.com ISBN-13: 978-1-4022-1004-4 ISBN-10: 1–4022-1004-3 Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data: Godek, Gregory J.P. 1001 Ways to be Romantic/Gregory J.P. Godek— Authors Annotated Edition p. cm. ISBN: 1-57071-481-9 (pbk: alk. Paper) 1. Courtship Miscellanea. 2. Dating (Social customs) Miscellanea. 3. Love Miscellanea. I. Title HQ801.G554 1999 646.4’7—dc21 99-36946 CIP Printed and bound in Canada TR 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 “Greg Godek should be nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize for teaching 1001 Ways To Be Romantic .” — Boston Magazine “The book is a well- thumbed romantic Bible that I consult often.” —B. Wicker, Reader 1001Ways.int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page ii Dedications • To the romantics—who simply want more. • To the cynics (the romantics of tomorrow). • To those who want to fall in love again. • To those who want to save romance from the scientists and psycholo- gists—and put it back into the hands of the poets and dreamers and lovers. • To my son, the future author, Thomas Valentine Godek. • And to my bride, my best friend, my soul mate, Karyn Lynn Godek…(Who is more fun than you and me? Nobody.) Dedication Page Theme Song: “[This One Goes Out To] the One I Love,” R.E.M. “I like your book 1001 Ways To Be Romantic ! It will fill your brain with all kinds of wonderful romantic ideas. I like number 584!” —Oprah Winfrey 1001Ways.int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page iii Also by Greg Godek • 10,000 Ways to Say I Love You • Love Coupons • I Love You Coupons • Romantic Questions: 264 Outrageous, Sweet and Profound Questions • Your Relationship Report Card Theme Song: “Paperback Writer,” The Beatles “These books are worth memorizing.” — Boston Herald 1001Ways.int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page iv Acknowledgments • Deborah Werksman • Bruce Jones • Kate Broughton • Dale Koppel • Mary Ann Sabia • Mary-Lynne Bohn • Bonnie Robak • John & Jean • Warren & Judy • Steven Jobs • Lou Rizzo & UPS • Sam & The Group • Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart Acknowledgments Page Theme Song: “Thank You,” Christina Aguilera “ 1001 Ways To Be Romantic . That seems like an awful lot! I mean, guys, if the first thousand ideas don’t work—what are the chances she’s going to stick around when you say, ‘Okay, just one more ’?!” —Jay Leno, The Tonight Show 1001Ways.int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page v Introduction 1 Once Upon a Time 4 They Lived Happily Ever After 5 Little Things Mean a Lot 7 Bigger Is Better 8 Creative Gifts 9 Creative Gestures 10 Romance on a Budget 12 Spare No Expense 13 The Most Important Things I’ve Learned in Twenty Years of Teaching Romance 14 The Ten Commandments for Loving Couples 15 Left-Brained* 16 Right-Brained* 17 Romance for Dummies 19 Romance for Smarties 20 What’s Your Romantic “Style”? (Men) 21 What’s Your Romantic “Style”? (Women) 22 Flowers 23 Chocolate 24 Jewelry 26 Perfume 27 Champagne 29 Lingerie 30 It’s Not What You Do— 31 —But How You Do It 33 To Do 34 I Do 35 Do’s & Don’ts 37 Don’ts & Do’s 39 Do 41 Don’t 42 You Must Remember This 43 A Kiss Is Just a Kiss 45 A Sigh Is Just a Sigh 47 The Fundamental Things Apply 48 As Time Goes By 50 (Play It Again, Sam) 51 Love Notes (I) 52 Love Notes (II) 53 Freshman Lessons 55 Sophomore Lessons 56 Junior Lessons 57 Senior Lessons 58 Le Boudoir 59 La Cuisine 61 Love Notes (III) 62 Love Notes (IV) 63 “I Love You” 64 “Ai Shite Imasu” 66 Be Creative 67 Be Prepared 68 Always, Always, Always 70 Never, Never, Never 72 Gifts, Gifts, Gifts 73 Sex, Sex, Sex 74 Love Notes (V) 76 Love Notes (VI) 77 Contents 1001Ways.int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page vi Lovesick 78 Prescriptions for Love 79 Help for the Hopeless 80 Hope for the Helpless 82 Travel Tips 83 A Suitcase Full of Romance 84 Fun & Games 85 Weird & Wacky 86 Cats & Dogs 87 Satin & Lace 89 Strategies & Examples 90 Bed & Breakfasts 92 Gifts & Presents 94 Presents & Gifts 96 Daily & Weekly 97 Monthly & Yearly 98 Yin & Yang 99 Yang & Yin 100 Mozart 101 Elvis 102 Lame Excuses (#’s 1-4) 104 Lame Excuses (#’s 5-8) 105 Lame Excuses (#’s 9-12) 106 Lame Excuses (#’s 13-14) 107 For Men Only 108 For Women Only 109 For Singles Only 110 For Marrieds Only 111 A Month of Romance: Week 1 113 A Month of Romance: Week 2 114 A Month of Romance: Week 3 116 A Month of Romance: Week 4 117 The Golden Rules of Romance 118 Rules Were Made to Be Broken 119 Be My Valentine! 121 Kiss Me, You Fool! 122 The Mathematics of Romance 123 The Calculus of Love 125 Couplehood 127 Parenthood 129 Erotica 130 Exotica 131 Creating an A+ Relationship 132 The Relationship Report Card 135 Common Sense 137 Uncommon Sense 138 It’s the Thought That Counts 139 Actions Speak Louder Than Words 141 S.W.A.K. 142 G.M.F.L. 143 Can’t Buy Me Love 144 I Want to Hold Your Hand 146 Help! 147 All You Need Is Love 148 At Home 150 At Work 151 Sweet Stuff 152 Kid Stuff 153 Funny Stuff 154 Cool Stuff 155 1001Ways.int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page vii Dirty Stuff 157 Sex! 158 Surprise! 159 Celebrate! 160 Outrageous! 162 Passionate! 163 Games People Play 164 Games Lovers Play 165 Off the Wall 166 On the Wall 167 The Myths of Romance (I) 168 The Myths of Romance (II) 169 Men Are from Mars 170 Women Are from Venus 172 Men Are (Not) from Mars* 173 Women Are (Not) from Venus* 175 Tuning In 176 Fine Tuning 178 Starstruck! 180 Lovestruck! 181 I’m in the Mood for Love 183 I’m in the Mood for Chocolate 184 The Gospel According to Godek 186 The Gospel According to Godek (Revisited) 187 Getting Down To Business 188 Funny Business 189 Resources (I) 190 Resources (II) 192 Resources (III) 193 Resources (IV) 195 Slightly Outrageous 196 Quite Outrageous 197 Slightly Naughty 198 Quite Naughty 200 Shopping for Dummies 201 Advanced Shopping Strategies 202 Words of Love/ Shakespeare’s 204 Words of Love/Poetic 206 Words of Love/ Your Words 207 Words of Love/ the Ancients 209 Memorize This List 210 Memorize This List, Too 212 Togetherness 213 Twogetherness 215 Two 216 Two (II) 218 Gift Ideas (I) 237 Gift Ideas (II) 238 Gift Giving for Dummies 239 Gift Wrapping for Dummies 240 Television 241 Radio 242 1-800-ROMANCE 244 www.romance.com 245 Concepts (I) 246 Concepts (II) 248 Erotica (I) 250 Erotica (II) 251 Happy Birthday! (I) 253 Happy Birthday! (II) 254 Money Makes the World Go ’Round 256 1001Ways.int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page viii Love Makes the World Go ’Round 257 Do It Outside 258 Do It in Public 259 Just Do It! 260 Just a Little Bit Naughty 261 The Gift of Time 263 Time for Love 264 For Singles Only (I) 265 For Singles Only (II) 266 For Marrieds Only (I) 267 For Marrieds Only (II) 268 Merry Christmas 269 Happy Hanukkah 271 Happy Anniversary 272 Happy Birthday 273 Custom-Made 274 One-of-a-Kind 275 Do-It-Yourself 276 Hide-and-Seek 277 Creativity Exercises 278 Exercising Your Creativity 279 Go Away! 281 Bon Voyage! 282 Cars 283 Sports 284 Dining In 285 Dining Out 286 By the Number 287 By the Book 288 Engaging Ideas 289 Will You Marry Me? 290 Marriage Matters 291 Monogamy— Not Monotony 292 (More) Kid Stuff 294 (More) Funny Stuff 295 The 99 Best Love Songs of the Twentieth (and Twenty-First) Centuries (#’s 1-25) 220 The 99 Best Love Songs of the Twentieth (and Twenty-First) Centuries (#’s 26-50) 221 The 99 Best Love Songs of the Twentieth (and Twenty-First) Century (#’s 51-75) 222 The 99 Best Love Songs of the Twentieth (and Twenty-First) Century (#’s 76-99) 223 Songs to Help Express Your Feelings 224 Best Love Song Duets 230 Best Broadway Love Songs 232 Best Romantic Movies & Best Romantic Movie Couples 233 Best Romantic Comedies 234 Great Date Movies 235 (More) Great Date Movies 236 Bonus Pages: Beyond 1001 1001Ways.int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page ix [...]... he’s reading The relationship secret that’s not really a secret: Express your love in lots of little ways 100 1Ways. int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page 8 8 • 1001 Ways To Be Romantic Bigger Is Better 13 Go for it in a BIG way Pull out ALL the stops Don’t tip-toe into being more romantic Be outrageously romantic 14 GIANT BANNERS are available from Supergram The banners are Make a gesture that’s printed... 395 Best of the Best 438 Best Brief Advice 439 And Now for Something Completely Different* 397 What Is Your Quest? 398 Top 10 Reasons to Be Romantic 440 Top 45 Reasons to Be Romantic 441 Getting to Know You 400 Staying in Touch 401 Messages 402 Massages 404 ABC 405 XYZ 408 FYI 409 Gift Ideas 410 Coupon Ideas 411 How to Understand Each Other 412 The End 442 The Beginning... She took it apart and gave it to him wrapped in sixteen different boxes! Copy a romantic poem onto fancy parchment paper Roll it into a scroll, tie it with a red ribbon, and present it to your lover 25 Play Trivial Pursuit (In preparation for the game, create some custom cards that ask trivia questions about your relationship.) 100 1Ways. int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page 12 12 • 1001 Ways To Be Romantic. .. subject to the whims of the U.S government 100 1Ways. int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page 13 Gregory J.P Godek • 13 Spare No Expense 27a The best way to spend the most money for the smallest gift is to buy diamonds 27b The best way to spend the most money for food is to dine at a five-star restaurant Play Monopoly together Use real money! 27c The best way to spend the most money for lingerie is to buy... • 1001 Ways To Be Romantic in Romance, you see, is the expression of love Romance brings love alive in the world Without romance, love is a sweet but empty concept I believe that expressing love is our purpose as human beings Therefore, anything that helps you achieve this purpose is a good thing There are thousands, millions of ways of expressing love These 1001 ideas are just the beginning 100 1Ways. int... With no TV to tempt you…with no computer to occupy you…with no furnace to heat you…you pretty much have no choice but to get out the candles, huddle around the fireplace and be romantic! This is why the birth rate always rises nine months after every major power outage True! 100 1Ways. int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page 11 Gregory J.P Godek • 11 22 Being a liberated gal, the bride wanted to use a hyphenated... without violent demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart.” — Honore de Balzac the most money on women’s clothing is to buy her haute couture 27g The best way to spend the most money on a hotel room is to reserve the honeymoon suite 100 1Ways. int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page 14 14 • 1001 Ways To Be Romantic The Most Important Things I’ve Learned in Twenty Years of... Page 16 16 • 1001 Ways To Be Romantic Left-Brained* 30 For those of you who like to analyze and compute things: • Spend 10% more time together • Generate 33% more laughter in your *Left-Brained people life together tend to be logical and • Focus 100% of your attention when practical They think listening to him or her first and feel second • Create a 10% increase in the amount of fun you have together •... an outfit from La Perla 27d The best way to spend the most money to fly is to travel first class La Perla has three shops in New York, Miami, and Los Angeles Call 212-459-2775, or visit the website at www.laperla.com 27e The best way to spend the most money on men’s clothing is to have a suit custom-made 27f The best way to spend “True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself It is equal and... explains how to get the woo in wooing.” —Cosmopolitan 100 1Ways. int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page 4 4 • 1001 Ways To Be Romantic Once Upon a Time… …two people fell in love Just like you They did all the classic romantic things But the passion faded after a few months Is this inevitable?? 1a He gave her a dozen roses and a box of chocolates on Valentine’s Day 1b She wrote him long, romantic love . Cataloging-in-Publication Data: Godek, Gregory J. P. 1001 Ways to be Romantic/ Gregory J. P. Godek Authors Annotated Edition p. cm. ISBN: 1-5 707 1-4 8 1-9 (pbk: alk. Paper) 1. Courtship Miscellanea 97 8-1 -4 02 2-1 00 4-4 ISBN-10: 1-4 02 2-1 00 4-3 Gregory J. P. Godek Title Page Theme Song: “In the Name of Love,” U2 Life is simply too short not to be romantic. 100 1Ways. int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page i Copyright. in wooing.” — Cosmopolitan Arlo & Janis © 1993. Reprinted by permission of Newspaper Enterprise Association, Inc. 100 1Ways. int 1st half NEW 10/9/07 4:55 PM Page 3 4 • 1001 Ways To Be Romantic Once Upon