[...]... the art of loving in the sense of the foregoing divisions: first I shall discuss the theory of love—and this will comprise the greater part of the book; and secondly I shall discuss the practice of love—little as can be said about practice in this, as in any other field II The Theory of Love I Love, The Answer To The Problem Of Human Existence ANY THEORY of love must begin with a theory of man, of. .. great deal of practice, until eventually the results of my theoretical knowledge and the results of my practice are blended into one—my intuition, the essence of the mastery of any art But, aside from learning the theory and practice, there is a third factor necessary to becoming a master in any art the mastery of the art must be a matter of ultimate concern; there must be nothing else in the world... consensus of all serves as a proof for the correctness of "their" ideas Since there is still a need to feel some individuality, such need is satisfied with regard to minor differences; the initials on the handbag or the sweater, the name plate of the bank teller, the belonging to the Democratic as against the Republican party, to the Elks instead of to the Shriners become the expression of individual... immature forms of love which may be called symbiotic union? In the following pages I shall call love only the former, I shall begin the discussion of "love" with the latter Symbiotic union has its biological pattern in the relationship between the pregnant mother and the foetus They are two, and yet one They live "together," (sym-biosis), they need each other The foetus is a part of the mother, it receives... reality, this attitude of concentrated meditation is the highest activity there is, an activity of the soul, which is possible only under the condition of inner freedom and independence One concept of activity, the modern one, refers to the use of energy for the achievement of external aims; the other concept of activity refers to the use of man's inherent powers, regardless of whether any external change... however, the idea that there are no differences between various types of love, which depend on the kind of object which is loved a Brotherly Love The most fundamental kind of love, which underlies all types of love, is brotherly love By this I mean the sense of responsibility, care, respect, knowledge of any other human being, the wish to further his life This is the kind of love the Bible speaks of when... discussion of these character orientations in E Fromm, Man for Himself, Rinehart & Company, New York, 1947, Chap Ill, pp 54-117 Most individuals of this type therefore refuse to give Some make a virtue out of giving in the sense of a sacrifice They feel that just because it is painful to give, one should give; the virtue of giving to them lies in the very act of acceptance of the sacrifice For them, the norm... in the act of giving lies the expression of my aliveness 4 4 Compare the definition of joy given by Spinoza It is not difficult to recognize the validity of this principle by applying it to various specific phenomena The most elementary example lies in the sphere of sex The culmination of the male sexual function lies in the act of giving; the man I gives himself, his sexual organ, to the woman At the. .. and father's love, I speak of the "ideal types"—in Max Weber's sense or of an archetype in Jung's sense—and do not imply that every mother and father loves in that way I refer to the fatherly and motherly principle, which is represented in the motherly and fatherly person.) Unconditional love corresponds to one of the deepest longings, not only of the child, but of every human being; on the other hand,... degree than they are forced to conform, at least in the Western democracies Most people are not even aware of their need to conform They live under the illusion that they follow their own ideas and inclinations, that they are individualists, that they have arrived at their opinions as the result of their own thinking— and that it just happens that their ideas are the same as those of the majority The consensus . art? The process of learning an art can be divided conveniently into two parts: one, the mastery of the theory; the other, the mastery of the practice. If I want to learn the art of medicine, I. in the relationship between the pregnant mother and the foetus. They are two, and yet one. They live "together," (sym-biosis), they need each other. The foetus is a part of the mother,. on the handbag or the sweater, the name plate of the bank teller, the belonging to the Democratic as against the Republican party, to the Elks instead of to the Shriners become the expression of