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[...]... like the face of a clock At 12:00 I wrote, “Without love. ” At 3:00 I wrote, She reacts.” (If she needs love like she needs air to breathe, and she s being suffocated, she will react.) Then at 6:00 I wrote, “Without respect, ” and at 9:00, He reacts.” (If he needs unconditional respect like he needs air to breathe, and he s hearing criticism or being attacked in some way, he will react.) And there... quickly catches his eye He skims the words—they are perfect! He thinks, This card is her—no doubt about it He grabs it off the shelf, pays the clerk, and hurries home rejoicing Finally, he has remembered their anniversary, and a special one it will be too She is there when he arrives at home, so he sneaks the card into another room, signs it, and quickly writes her name on the envelope He even adds... believer in the power of the Love and Respect message wrote to say: Just yesterday, I talked to two new female clients who were wanting to save their marriages that were barely alive I asked them if they loved their husbands Without hesitation they said, “Yes.” I then asked if they respected their husbands I got nothing but hesitation! They sputtered like an old car needing a tune-up One of them admitted... that she was quite the reader, but she had never heard anything like this before She asked me how she was supposed to respect her husband unconditionally I told her in the same way that he was supposed to love her unconditionally It’s only with God’s help She smiled Note that these two wives had no problem with the concept of unconditional love Women never think of that as an oxymoron To them, the words... feelings The husbands think, Well, if that’s the way she feels, there’s nothing I can do If I have to earn her respect and I’m that bad as a person, then I guess I’ll just forget it When the wife flatly says her husband will have to earn her respect before she gives him any, she leaves the husband in a lose-lose situation Now he s responsible for both love and respect in the relationship He must unconditionally... mixed up Back in the late 1960s, when the feminist movement2 was hitting its stride, Aretha Franklin released a hit record entitled “R-E-S-P-E-C-T,” which clearly sent the message that all women were asking for was a little respect when they got home Respect is what women needed, and they “had to have it.” “R-E-S-P-E-C-T” became something of a theme song for many women, but what most of them did not realize... agape -love his wife, then she truly needs love In fact, she needs love just as she needs air to breathe Picture, if you would, the wife having an air hose that goes to a love tank When her husband bounds in and starts prancing around like a ten-point buck looking for someplace to graze, he steps on her air hose This does not make her a happy camper In fact, if she can find a baseball bat or some other... moody or upset, but he was not signaling that he did not love her Often, we focus on our own needs and simply overlook the needs of the other person The wife needs love; she is not trying to be disrespectful The husband needs respect; he is not trying to be unloving Once you grasp this basic principle—that the “issue” is not the real issue at all—you are on your way to cracking the communication code... other weapon, she might just whack the big buck and tell him, “Get off my air hose; I can’t breathe.” Simply put, when her deepest need is being stepped on, you can expect her to react negatively In counseling, I tell the husband that when he sees the spirit of his wife deflate, he is stepping on her air hose She is not getting the “air” she needs to breathe She is crying out, “I feel unloved by you... married to Sarah, who is the epitome of neatness and cleanliness, and I flunk by her standards She is not a perfectionist, but she is logical Why leave a towel on the bed when a rack is in the bathroom waiting for the towel? Why leave a cupboard door open when the hinge functions both ways? Why leave the books on the floor when it would only take a few seconds to put them on the bookshelf ? But Sarah has . Emerson. Love and respect : the love she most desires, the respect he desperately needs / by Emerson Eggerichs. p. cm. ISBN-10: 1-5 914 5-1 8 7-6 (hardcover) ISBN-13: 97 8-1 -5 914 5-1 8 7-7 (hardcover) ISBN-10:. (hardcover) ISBN-10: 1-5 914 5-4 1 7-4 (hardcover with DVD) ISBN-13: 97 8-1 -5 914 5-4 1 7-5 (hardcover with DVD) ISBN-10: 1-5 914 5-2 4 6-5 (IE) ISBN-13: 97 8-1 -5 914 5-2 4 6-1 (IE) 1. Spouses—Religious life. 2. Love Religious. ever heard. We constantly find ourselves going back to the principles we learned that special weekend. We sit on the couch together and walk through C-O-U-P-L-E and C-H-A-I-R-S and see where